I have been married for nearly nine years. I have a wedding ring, which I bought myself seven years into the marriage to help curb people hitting on me at my old job. My husband has no ring and never has.
At the time that we married we were poor and just couldn't afford a luxury item like a ring. We couldn't even afford an actual wedding or reception, and kept things simple and cheap.
Over time, it became less and less important until we both realized that neither cared about having a ring. The one I bought for the sake of convenience was a little $100-on-sale number from a local outlet. I never wear it.
Now, I originally thought this was a rarity. But as it turns out, more and more young couples are opting out of getting rings, choosing to ignore the tradition.
A woman named Amanda B. I met a couple of weeks ago, who had been married for two years, had this to say about the subject:
"I always felt the ring thing was kind of tacky. Remi asked me if I wanted one when we started discussing marriage, and what kind of proposal I might be interested in. At first I felt insecure about the whole thing, because I am supposed to have been dreaming about it my whole life. Right? But I sort of just realized I had never cared, and that I would rather discuss it practically and start planning. We had the big wedding, the reception, but no rings. I like it better than way; I don't feel like I have to wear a symbol to prove I am his."
This is a fairly common statement. I have heard plenty of women say they don't like the traditional message of ownership that the ring signified in the past.
What do you think? Ditch the ring or stay with the tradition?
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