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Custom Wedding Vows - Brainstorming

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Preparation Questions!

So, you've decided to get married! Now that you have gotten the easy part out of the way - you've asked her/him to marry you, and they've said “Yes” - the next step is to start analyzing yourself, your partner, and your relationship. Even if you've both discussed your future on a few different occasions, you may still be unclear about what exactly it has in store for you. In order to successfully figure this out, it's essential that you sit down together and ask one another the right questions. Otherwise, how else will you arrive at the best answers?

1WeddingSource.com; an authoritative guide on wedding planning and wedding resources necessary for the fulfillment of your wedding plan; has compiled these helpful tips to get the grey cells started and to simplify the sometimes overwhelming task before you. Below are questions that will help you work through the intricate details. Take some time to reply to each of the following with your partner. Be as honest and open-minded as possible, and really put considerate reflection into your responses. The more elaborate you are, the easier it will be for you to write your wedding vows.

“For maximum results, be as honest and open-minded as possible when answering the questions.”
  • Is there a poem, song, or book that is particularly meaningful to your relationship?
  • How did you two first meet?
  • Do you share any hobbies or other mutual interests?
  • What are they?
  • What was one of the first things that you noticed about your partner?
  • In your opinion, what was the single most important event in your relationship?
  • What was the event that you feel says the most about your evolution as a couple?
  • Why did your parent's marriage succeed or fail?
  • What marital pitfalls do you want to avoid?
  • What can you take from your parent's examples, good or bad?
  • Do you believe in soul-mates?
  • When did you first realize that you loved each other?
  • Do you remember when you actually said the words?
  • What trials has your love been forced to overcome?
  • List some of your most favorite memories.
  • Do you both share a common vision of what your future looks like in regard to home, children, grandchildren?
  • Take the time to put into the words the vision that you've shared together.
  • How do you both look at personal growth and change?
  • What aspects of your life together are likely to change, and how do you anticipate dealing with these changes?
  • How important is mutual esteem and compassion to you in your relationship?
  • When one of you feels that a particular need isn't being met, how do you feel is the best way to address this problem with the other person?
  • Do you share a common religious tradition?
  • If you share a common religious tradition, is there a particular biblical scripture that you as a couple find especially meaningful?
  • What do you love most about your partner and why?
  • How do you, as a couple, define the following?
    • Marriage
    • Love
    • Trust
    • Togetherness
    • Commitment