Thread: Paying someone else to write your "thank you" notes - is that right or wrong?

If you think that the opportunity to spend money on a wedding ends with the honeymoon, you're mistaken. A new business wants to unburden newlyweds and others by writing and mailing all those pesky "thank you" notes, for a price.

Long Island-based Wedding Thank You Writer (a to-the-point business name if we've ever heard one), charges $2.50/card to pen the notes of thanks. That number jumps up to $4/card if you want them to actually mail the cards out for you.

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Thoughts please?

My conscience would never allow me to do that. What happens when you need to send the same person a birthday or Christmas card? They would see it's different handwriting.

Very, very bad form to get someone else to write your thank you cards. Although you do not need to write a novel you do need to give each guest a personal thank you based on the gift they give you and as such only you can do this! Cards written by anyone else are unlikely to even sound like they were written by you. Thank you notes do not have to be only written by the bride however, the groom can do them too but they have to come from the both of you. Your guests will appreciate the effort! Oh and no texts, emails, printed notes, a message on your website or a 'one size fits all' message either!!!!!

I agree with the other members here on this issue......It’s really bad that some one else write and mail thank you cards on your behalf to the guests........It’s a feeling that says that you are touched with their action and wants to say them Thanks and how can a person can understand this feeling.....And what about the guests...I think it hardly take time to write thank you and send them to your close and loved once.....So why to pay someone else to do this......

I don't think that's right. If they have gone to the trouble of selecting and buying you a wedding gift, the least you can do is write them a thank-you note yourself!

I'm horrified that anyone would do that! It's so impersonal and certainly doesn't convey that you appreciated the gift.

I know some corporations pay others to send out Christmas cards during the festive season on their behalf to business acquaintances and connections. That's fair enough. They won't be sitting across a dinner table from you anytime soon. But to do that to family and friends with your wedding thank you's is a terrible idea. Unless you don't care about losing them...

I'd be very hurt if I found out that my thank you note had been written by any person besides the bride and groom. And think about the damage control you'd need to do when word got around the family! They would all know you did the same with theirs. No, that's very rude.

Heck, you could write a few in between episodes of your TV shows or on your lunch break. That's what I do with my Christmas cards as we have a bazillion that get sent out. I just keep the list with the box of cards and tick them off as I go. When you tackle it as one job it seems so much bigger. Break it down to so many a night and before you know it you're done. Some nights when you get in the swing of it you'll just keep going anyway.

Darn, I was hoping one of you liked the idea so I could offer to do it for $3. Just kidding. I vote no, no and no again. There are some things in life you simply have to make the time for and writing your wedding thank you cards is one of them.